Glutter’s Hong Kong
Nancy Kissel is an American woman who just got convicted of killing her banker husband in Hong Kong. The story supposedly had "riveted," the banking community in New York, HK and expats all over Asia. Which is pathetic that we are entertained so easily.
But I thought I would mention this because although I am sure she’s insane, she probably did kill her husband on purpose by feeding him a laced milkshake and should be put away, I don’t really discount her whole, "My husband was an abusive coke addicted banker" story, nor when she said, "I love him, I still love him, he’s my husband."
There are so many coke addicted bankers in this world. I can just reel off a list of names… and so many woman who never leave.
But if we did a sample poll among their co-workers, their bosses and their family, many of them would say, "I can’t believe he is.. that’s such a lie. I know him, he would not be like that."
Except he was like that, at work, at home, at drinks, at parties, at junks, at wake boarding, at funerals. They don’t notice because he’s always like that and they don’t know any different.
And the dirty little secret is even if people are high, doesn’t mean they couldn’t be seemingly normal, likable or even lovable. Sometimes, that’s why people like doing drugs. It makes them seem like something they don’t feel they are on their own.
It’s really sad she killed him. It’s really sad so many people put up with that kind of life for whatever reason. It’s really sad that someone could still be an addict at 40-something with three kids in tow. I want to call up a few people I no longer talk to and go, "Is this enough of a wake up call? Do you realize that you can keep going like this for another decade? You know maybe if you don’t make a concerted effort, it’s not something "you grow out of?"
On a gorgeous sunny day, while watching the water near a beach, I turned to my friend, "Dying at 30 is really embarrassing you know. You should try and avoid it."
"I wouldn’t know would i? Embarressing for whom? My parents? My friends? I don’t even have a girlfriend anymore so who?"
"Your legacy."
"Legacy?"
"How we remember you."
But maybe not dying and being an addict at 42 is even worse.
You could turn into a monster like the picture they painted of Mr. Kissel.
The first time I read the account of Nancy Kissel’s testimony, I had to breathe really deeply so I would not throw up. I felt that way because I knew what she said could be true, even if it’s not in her case.
Twenty years of coke abuse will no doubt create a power hungry, sexually violent, incredibly erratic and mean man. It’s not something one can avoid by default of putting that stuff on one’s body.
Nancy Kissel could have left her husband. She should have except she obviously was not strong enough and not a clear headed person at all.
But if Robert Kissel was a strong person himself, he could have quit?
It’s possible they both loved each other in their own weaknesses.
No one knows.
Everything everyone is saying are speculations -as in it is something that’s completely imagined out of thin air.
The only truth I know is: it’s not my business.
It’s not anyone elses either.
But with the lynch mob celebrating. I just thought I would have my say.
Yan Sham-Shackleton Online 